I belong to a “club” in my neighborhood that has fostered friendships, a community and social and emotional stimulation for me for over 2 years. It has been one of the best things that I have ever been a part of and I am so grateful that it and everything about it was brought to my life so as I travel on this path of mine, I stumbled upon it.
But lately, things have been changing. (sorry for the vagueness but I am still working through this) I am not feeling the same sense of support or belonging that I once did. I am not feeling that same spirit that filled my heart once by simply being there. Who knows what happened. I do know at my ripe age of 48 that the only constant is change. Maybe it is me, maybe just the natural progression of the “club”, who knows. But here is where I stand. When something like this happens, as humans, I think it is natural to want to start colluding with others and bitching and complaining perhaps to create a sense of validation for the waning feelings by talking negatively about this, that or the other thing. But for what? I can choose to be a victim of my perceived changes in this club or a creative cause in my life. I could gossip or protest, or, use this as an opportunity to reassess my own needs. Perhaps choose a new club, do something different and love, accept, take responsibility for my experience and move on with grace and appreciation for what once was! Whether it is at work, in your family or at play ask yourself, are you a victim or a creative cause in your life?
Keep on becoming…..